Dating Married Men.

How complex is this dating a married man? some say how could you? but it happens and it could even happen to you if you are not careful. In life we can easily end up doing things we said we would never do if we are not careful. This is why it is so vital to have boundaries in life. Because frankly without them things would just be buck wild. Some married men seek out other women some men test you to see how far they can go with you to see what you will tolerate and won't tolerate. Some men come with an agenda most married men do. Some start off very innocent with no real intention of an affair. This is why we need to have boundaries. For instance no married man should be calling you "babe, honey, sweetheart, sexy, boo, or any of those names because he is married. You can even go as far as saying no man has a right to call you those names unless you all are in a committed relationship that is your right, your choice. If the guy can not respect that then he can step. Every man that finds you attractive is not to be followed up on. Men will come and go some will leave me mark some won't. Anytime you see a married man is getting too close to you or maybe talking to you too much telling you things you think he should be telling his wife it's time to stop it. This can gradually happen right before your eyes. Marriage is hard period, Marriage is work period. That is not to say Marriage can't be good but it does time much time, effort, patience, investment, compromise, and work. So t here are times in a marriage where things are not going to be so good and at those times sometimes a spouse might stray or be tempted to do so lets try not to be that temptation to a married man. This is not to say it is always the woman's fault a woman c could be minding her own business then here comes this married man with his compliments, chats, flirts, gifts, and whatever else he may bring to the table. But we have a choice to decline it all.

Another thing that we as women need to be mindful of is our venerability. At times when you are vulnerable any man that shows us the time of day or some love and affection we can fall for and he does not even have to be all that attractive he could even be married and we would look past that because our need to be wanted and paid attention to is greater than out morals at the time this can be tricky and easily indicated. This is why we so need JESUS daily to guide us and be with us we need to seek him about our emotions feelings and venerability. Which as women we do not always do we are so quick to run into the arms of a man before we do GOD. It take time growth and patience. We also must remember the other woman always gets hurt in the end. Because the other woman is just that the other woman. As twisted as the married man devotion might be to his wife he is devoted to her not you. So you can get left at anytime he may tell you he will marry you but does he ever??? he may tell you he is leaving his wife but does he ever?? It is RARE that a man would leave his wife and kids and go marry the woman he is having an affair with and IF he does that relationship does not last long. Because if he cheats with you he will cheat on you and if he cheats on his wife he will cheat on you. There are reasons affairs ac cure sometimes there are selfish reasons other times it is because something was missing lacking in the marriage but it never excuses the affair or makes it right. Wrong is Wrong right is right and affairs are wrong no matter the reason. But I can understand why some affairs may ac cure which is not to excuse it in any way. So to my ladies be aware of married men please do no date them or fall for any of the flirting to be "innocent" a married man has no business flirting with other women other than HIS WIFE. There is nothing innocent about flirting because it starts in the head before it hits the bed it's true. Most actions start with thoughts and words hold power and much feelings that trigger things in us as women as people in general. Don't play with fire don't play with married men respect yourself enough to know you deserve so much better. GOD will never bless you with another woman's husband that is not how our GOD works. We each have our own husbands are not to be shared between two women that is perversion. If Women took a stand men would not have any women to have an affair with cheat on with but it goes both way and frankly world we live in is fallen we are sinners that give into our flesh but because of JESUS we do not have to be ruled by our flesh we can take a stand and do what is right in the sight of GOD.

IF a married man asks you out the answer is NO. IF a married man wants to take you to a movie or out just to talk just you and him and his wife is not welcomes the answer is NO. If you can only be friends with him and not his wife then I would decline. Let's say you have a very good male friend that is now married I would say you take time to get to know his wife so there will be no friction there. Do not step on her toes because she is his wife and no matter how long you may have been friends with him once he marries her she comes First because she is his WIFE you are not. Once you marry you becomes ONE no longer TWO but ONE. And as his friend you should respect that. When married one has to be wise and careful. Because we are still human no matter how much GOD we have in us we should not put ourselves in tempting situation because the flesh is weak and we are prone to fall at anytime so we should never think of ourselves as SO mighty that we can go be alone with a married man that we find attractive and think nothing is going to happened because "I have it under control" sweetheart no you don't we don't so best to not put ourselves in that situation. I admit being a woman myself when a man sees you pays attention to you calls you nice names compliments you it can be so nice. Attention period can be nice at times. It is better to know who we are in GOD know how lovely we are in his sight so we do not crave so much attention and validation from a man. It would just be icing on the cake not something we crave just to be happy with ourselves. If you are a woman that have more male friends than female friends keep this in mind cause that male friend may get married one day and in being a good friend you would want to respect his marriage. IF you have feelings for this male friend I would advice you tell him before it's too late. That is a whole other topic smile =)

So please do not even give into dating a married man being that you are a woman of GOD trying to live a life that is pleasing in the sight of GOD. If you are a woman that does not care you just do what feels good to you at any given moment then this may not apply to you but I would love for you to think about what you are doing when you are doing who you are hurting and what harm you are also bringing to yourself. Taking a hard long look at ourselves is not always easy but it is always worth the look. There is always something that causes us to do the things we do we just have to examine what. Let us take the time to get to know the you GOD created you to be. Let us to do what we would want don unto us. GOD is with us and He can help us set the boundaries we need to ensure that our heart is guarded. Married men are off limits and we are off limits to married men let us not even entertain the thought or flirt with the idea. We are loved, appreciated and cared for by GOD the maker of the Universe if only we can fully comprehend that. In closing I would like to say keep smiling love GOD love yourself and don't settle for nothing but God's best for you He loves you and you are special in His sight what he has for you is more than some married man that wants another to go to when his wife is getting on his nerves. Seek GOD keep GOD close. Much Love.

Written By: Mireille Robinson M
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